Think about it…
Feeling inadequate is not a sin. However it is wrong to act on those feelings and drive yourself unmercifully to prove that you are not inadequate. I know what that feels like. At one stage, I thought ‘superwoman’ was my middle name!
Misplaced energy like that can destroy relationships and it’s a terrible strain living with someone who’s constantly trying to prove she’s `superwoman’, all part of an attempt to hide feelings of inadequacy.
Here’s some very simple advice
1. Lighten Up!! Stop trying to outsmart the next person to prove you’re better than them. Give them a chance to shine and be superwoman as well!
2. When you feel inadequate, watch your self-talk. These feelings don’t prove that you ARE inadequate. That’s ‘Faulty Emotional Reasoning‘.
Faulty Emotional Reasoning is common among people with depression. Let me use an example you might be familiar with. You don’t feel like getting out of bed and because you feel this way, you conclude that it’s a bad idea to get out of bed. Wrong! The very best thing is to force yourself out of bed and DO something. Staying in bed is just going to make you feel more inadequate. You don’t have to act out your feelings.
3. Most people feel inadequate at times. Welcome to the real world! Ask yourself how you’ve coped in the past with feelings of inadequacy. In this situation it might just be the motivation you need to gain new skills to cope with whatever you’re facing.
But trying to be ‘Superwoman’ is a no-no!
All that effort could ultimately drive you to burn-out. It’s just not worth it.
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