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Overcoming Loneliness

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Most lonely people really would love to know some of the secrets of how to get friends, the secrets to overcoming loneliness. If you dream that all you need is to find someone who will care about you and make you happy, then think again! Don’t put your happiness at the mercy of someone else. It really is a case of marketing yourself properly. It’s like putting a business plan into place. You know the end result that you would like, now it’s time to develop an action plan.

4 STEPS TO OVERCOMING LONELINESS

1. Develop self-love.

Start enjoying your own company and do things that give you personal satisfaction. This isn’t being self-centered. A person who likes themselves and doesn’t constantly put themselves down, is very attractive to others.

2. Look attractive.

First impressions do count. Look in the mirror and make an honest assessment of what you see. Many lonely people dress in a drab, unappealing manner. Get a new hairstyle. Looking good on the outside can do so much to your self-esteem. You’re telling the world ‘I like myself’! You might exclaim that this just isn’t you, but be aware that drab dressing could be a result of insecurity, hoping that nobody will notice you. Dressing poorly can also arise from a fear of sexuality. To avoid any attraction from the opposite sex, you effectively put them off with unattractive clothing. then when no-one makes a move on you, it confirms to you that you’re unattractive. You want to give the world a different message, don’t you?

3. Think Attractive Thoughts.

Give yourself good messages about yourself. Listen to the positive ‘best friend voice’ within rather than ‘the worst enemy voice’. Attractive thoughts are very appealing, and remember that your thoughts directly influence your behavior. Attractive thoughts mean that any companion can relax and not be hypersensitive to your feelings. It produces a good vibe. Project positive feelings rather than telling others how inferior, or miserable you are. When you tell people how miserable you are it just puts others off. I’m not saying that you must live a lie, or come across as ‘fake’ but put your best foot forward when you’re trying to make friends. It’s not all about looks either. Have a look around and you’ll notice that many couples include an ‘attractive’ and a less physically attractive partner and they still seem to love each other! Don’t become preoccupied with some physical ‘flaw’ you may imagine you have. Don’t draw attention to it and nobody will either. Test this out if you don’t believe me.  Pick out your best features and make the most of them.

4. Think of Others.

Take the focus off yourself and take an interest in the other person. The Queen Mother once said that there was no such thing as a boring person. A person is only boring if you haven’t taken the effort to get to know them. Decide ahead of any social encounter that you are going to help make the other person enjoy themselves.

We all need at least a few friends. We certainly don’t need hundreds as you see some people have on Facebook. To have friends, we also need to learn to be a good friend.

Click here to learn about 6 Common Human Needs that can be off-putting to others and leave you lonely. However, it’s not all doom and gloom because knowledge brings power to change some bad habits.

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