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Buried Memories

August 27, 2013 by Karin Stewart Leave a Comment

Paul_Tillich“Something in us prevents us from remembering when remembering proves to be too difficult or painful … We are not entirely successful because the memory is buried within us and influences every moment of our growth. Sometimes it breaks through the prison and strikes at us directly and painfully.” Paul Tillich

Paul Johannes Tillich (August 20, 1886 – October 22, 1965) was a German-American Christian existentialist philosopher and theologian. Tillich is widely regarded as one of the most influential theologians of the 20th century. He is best known for his works The Courage to Be (1952) and Dynamics of Faith (1957), which introduced issues of theology and modern culture to the general public.

Paul Tillich

You know that feeling when you say or do something that just doesn’t seem ‘like you’. Use this as an opportunity to delve beneath the surface and dig out that memory that could have triggered your reaction. If if you’re totally unaware to the memory, it still affects how you behave. Use the opportunity to ask yourself what belief or what past experience could trigger your present behavior.

Dig out the roots! This is the way to change and self-understanding.

Paul Tillich – The Courage to Be is available on Amazon.

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Change the World – Dwayne Savaya

May 23, 2013 by Karin Stewart Leave a Comment

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President Obama on ‘being perfect’

March 12, 2013 by Karin Stewart 13 Comments

 

Obama Arrives In New York

President Obama on ‘being perfect’

On ‘Being perfect’

‘We were never sent here to be perfect. We were sent here to make what difference we can’.

These words were spoken by President Obama, during the State of the Union address, urging Congress to take up measures dealing with such issues as gun control, climate change and investment in infrastructure.

Forget about being perfect – it’s a waste of precious energy. Do whatever you can to the best of your ability and you will make a difference in your world.

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The Critic – Theodore Roosevelt

January 6, 2013 by Karin Stewart 1 Comment

The Critic - Theodore Roosevelt

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly  who errs and comes up short again and again … who spends himself in a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly.” – Theodore Roosevelt

There is so much wisdom in this saying, the difficulty is where to start!

Some people seem to gain self-esteem by believing that they raise themselves up by putting down others. Not so! Look to the good in others and get involved in a worthy cause.  That’s the way to build yourself up rather than destroy relationships.

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It’s not about YOU!

November 1, 2012 by Karin Stewart Leave a Comment

The boss shouts at you and your mood goes south! Sound familiar? So why does it affect your mood so badly?

For a start we don’t like making mistakes and being shouted at, but hey, that’s life. We learn when we make mistakes. But our biggest mistake is then jumping to the conclusion that we are personally a failure. Your behavior doesn’t reflect who you are as a person. Actions and self-image are two different things but so often we let them contaminate each other.

It’s not about YOU!!

Abraham Lincoln knew this lesson (Time magazine – November 5, 2012). Lincoln never confused his mission with himself. He never allowed his enemies to pull down his self-esteem. “Lincoln had the hide of a rhinoceros and a rare ability to set the past aside when turning former enemies into allies“. In other words, he kept his focus on his goals and the plans to achieve those goals. His self-esteem never entered the picture and remained intact whatever happened. “To Lincoln a grudge was a waste of resources. If a person could be useful, it mattered little whether he was  friend or foe”.

Some lessons to be learnt:

  • Don’t make the mistake of thinking that you’re a mistake because you made a mistake. We learn from our mistakes. Develop the hide of a rhinoceros.
  • Don’t hold grudges. They’re a waste of time and energy.  Can you think of anyone you’re holding a grudge against? Forgive them, not for their sake but your own. Why let the unnecessary weight of unforgiveness drag you down. Be quick to forgive.
  • Focus on your goals and make a plan to achieve them.

Have a good week!

 

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