Is my past baggage affecting my marriage?
Let’s think about what the word ‘baggage’ means to us. I’m sure you’re all familiar with the regrets of packing too much luggage for your holiday and feeling weighed down by your luggage. Next time you’re going to pack light, but when the next time comes you pack all that unnecessary stuff again. Sound familiar. Does your luggage control you or are you in control, packing what you need?
The same story seems to apply to our emotional lives. Does your emotional baggage control your life or have you discarded what you don’t need? And are you carrying lots of baggage into your marriage, expecting your partner to carry a large share of it?
It’s time to travel light! A good tip for carrying light is to ask yourself a question every time you feel your partner says something that hurts you. Did she/he mean to hurt you? Was the intention to hurt? If the answer is no, let it pass!